When You’re Not A Morning Person Or A Night Owl?
As I began this journey of blogging (which hasn’t been long), I had a hard time finding the best time to write. I tried reading and note taking in the mornings as I got up. This was hard because I don’t like to do anything before I have my coffee and by the time I have made my cup of coffee my kid is up and running. Then I tried focusing a little during quiet-time, but I would get distracted by things that need to be done around the house. Then I tried writing at night after everyone had gone to bed and I would be yawning the entire time and eventually lose focus. It didn’t seem to be working.
I am a mom and a wife and I help my grandmother who recently moved in with us. Time is precious. Let me rephrase…alone time is precious. I stay home and homeschool our son. He is only in kindergarten but everything is a learning experience when you’re a kid, right? I like taking care of my family and take some pride in keeping our house mostly clean. I also enjoy spending time with my husband when he comes home from work. So when I stay so busy during the day I don’t really have time to write then and daytime is when I’m at my best.
Let me tell you a little about my day so you can have a better picture.
When I get up in the mornings, I like to drink my coffee and “wake up”. As I said earlier, I am not a morning person so quiet in the mornings is exactly what I need. That’s hard with a 5 year old who is wide open as soon as he gets up. I just need a little time but sometimes I don’t get any wake up time. Once the coffee has somewhat kicked in, I am on the go until after lunch; preparing breakfast, cleaning, schooling, figuring out what’s for supper, and then preparing lunch. After lunch we have quiet-time where Mr. B has to lay down and be quiet. Usually my grandmother goes and lays down as well and so I am left alone. My time is then filled with cleaning what I couldn’t finish that morning and maybe getting a little rest myself. I have been able to write some thoughts during that time, especailly if Mr. B falls asleep. Around 4 pm I get the kitchen ready and start supper. I really like super easy meals such as one-pot, sheet pan and crockpot meals because they are easy and a breeze to clean up. Anyway, after that we have some play time, then bath and our normal bedtime routine. We start the bedtime routine around 7:30 pm only because it takes him so long to get still and fall asleep. He’ll get up a million times and call us into his room a million more. Needless to say, bedtime is frustrating. We are still working on it.
After cleaning up the dishes and getting the kitchen back in order I try to write, but my mind is on the events of the day and I have a hard time reigning my brain back in. By the time I have good thoughts rolling in, I’m so tired and ready for bed that I can’t focus. However I have found that staying up late gets me a little more alone time. 11pm has been the max, though. By that time I am turning into a pumpkin and need to get to bed ASAP!
So, when does a writer write when they aren’t a morning person or a night owl? When they can’t get up to write before others get up AND they can’t hang late at night to write after everyone has gone to sleep? Well, I do it in spurts throughout the day. LIke I said at the beginning of this post. I write ideas, topics and drafts thoughtout the day. I have an ongoing list of topics I keep and add to as they come to me. Each day I try to write some thoughts or ideas that I have for those topics. Some days it’s a lot while other days it’s a little. Some I have outlines for already and those are just waiting to be drafted. And for others it’s just a matter of finding the right words.
Have I found the best time to just sit and write? No. I don’t believe that time exists right now for me. It would be nice to be able to sit for hours and finish a thought from idea to blog post, but for me, right now, that is just not possible. I am sure the more I write, the better I’ll get and the more evolved my time management will become. But as for now, this is it. Writing here and there as I can and keeping it real. Just leave me alone in the mornings, especially before my coffee and make sure I go to bed at a decent hour at night and it’s all good for now. This is homegrown chaos at its best.
How about you? Are you a morning person or a night person? Maybe you’re like me and you are neither. Leave a comment below.